It is this safety that allows us to go out into the world and accomplish our daily tasks.
In other words, validation is just showing the speaker that we can accept the validity of their logic, thoughts, wants, and needs (whether we share them or not) and that they are safe from attack or ridicule.
A simple statement like, “It must be difficult and painful to have something like that occur,” can be validating.
Validation is not agreeing with their emotional experience, it is reassuring them that it is okay for them to feel the way they do.
(shows interest) – Wow, she must have made you really angry. If you want a validating statement to feel “true” make it about the truth of the situation for the other person. When you make a validating statement you should not: – Make it about you.
Part of human nature is to be understood, feel wanted and needed.