) I used to hold this inside and cry because no matter what I've gotten treated nasty. How dare she treat me nasty and disrespectfully, even in front of my kids. I think back on so many instances throughout my life, things she's done to me, said to me, said about me, or how she's treated me, or has never been there for me. We remind her of her past with a violent, miserable husband and she has been taking it out on us throughout our lives. Have no guilt for cutting her free and only let her back in your life once she has been through the right chanells ( proffessional people) and is on medication and that she is looking to make amends with you and not the latter. In my case, her distaste of me is because I'm the only girl; she talks highly of her "precious boys". But she's the first to call someone a B_ _ _ H if they don't do something she wants them to do. She'll go as far as calling children bad names. But she's had a problem with everyone I've been with.I can be quiet and say not a word and I still get poison from her. There is no use for me to continue a relationship with her. Thank god you put a stop to this behavour and know your kids and there kids etc can have the life they deserve thanks to you!!! It also appears to be jealousy, and she has made my life miserable because of it. She's the most miserable, nasty, bitter person I know. She's been the cause of a couple of break-ups but its my fault, I allowed it. I found a wonderful man and realized that God answers prayer. So she calls me on my cell phone to avoid talking to him if he answers the house phone.I'm not being cynical or hateful, but observing a truth that many people seem to share.I'm a single, christian middle-aged woman, who has had no choice but to release the toxic relatives I've had in my life, otherwise they would sink me along with them.Description: Since Freshmen year of High School, I've been floating this list of quotes from computer to computer, adding to it as the inspiration comes by, leading to a document that continually humors and ins...Since Freshmen year of High School, I've been floating this list of quotes from computer to computer, adding to it as the inspiration comes by, leading to a document that continually humors and inspires me.I finally realized it's because she can't stand looking at me since I favor my father and grandmother in looks. Well I am finally stating in this entry what I felt for a long time. I will NEVER get the one thing I should have gotten -LOVE- Caring, Respect, support, etc. However, I have gotten 1 thing from her, the knowledge to make sure I am totally different. After a nasty set of lies and deception by her over the Memorial Day weekend, I came to same conclusion you have. If you've tried your very best to be a loving daughter, the least she can do is try to act like a loving mother instead of a viper. He treats me like a queen and is so good to my children. She refuses to call our home because she says my family is "corney, all he does is cater to you". She's highly upset if I don't answer my cell phone. She refuses, so she must really not want to talk to me.I truly believe they are putting their own unhappiness on you simply because you keep coming back. We bought a new house, went on a family vacation this year and one together, just the two of us. I've always allowed my mom to control me and my two children.
She's always been this way, but it's getting worse as she gets older (now 68). She lies and when you call her on it, she denies it. My brother hasn't had anything to do with her in the last several years. Throughout my life, I always knew "To be different, and not like her". I love my children more than anything on this earth and would never think of treating them the way she's treated us. Im betting you feel a lil better after getting it of your chest.I think its also time for me to break my ties with her. I've also prayed a lot about it but I wonder if God really hears this one particular prayer.Here's what I am learning about the families we are born into: Many times the only things we share are genes, nothing more.Recently, she said in an extremely bitter tone, that she can't stand looking at me and my 2 siblings because we look like our grandmother and father. ) She said she doesn't trust anyone, especially her own children. We worked hard for everything we have and never asked her or anyone else for anything. I believe in prayer and have prayed since a little girl and feel this is just 1 prayer that will not be answered. You need to meditate of sum sort or do sum relaxation techniques. I place a crystal rock on my chest (to draw the hurt and anger from my heart) and listen to some calming music or rainforest and I lay on the bed for as long as I can but you only need to do it for 4 minutes per day. she basically told me I was doing this to myself and NONE OF IT is or ever was her fault.... Its like you all are a "fly on the wall" and know everything I'm going through. Maybe I would have had caring, loving adoptive parents.