For instance: how do you build the best profile ever? And then just like, it’s a series of prompts, and basically what I’m realizing now looking at it is in every case I’ve tried to brag and then quickly tell a joke so it doesn’t look like I’m bragging that much. VOGT: Okay, so it says what are you doing with your life? And this is true, but it all ends up sounding up like weird bragging. VOGT: It could be that I was really into torrential rain. VOGT: One of the prompts is “I Spend A Lot of Time Thinking About.” And I say that I spend a lot of time worrying about people I know seeing me on here, which is ironic because we’re on the radio right now. VOGT: Yeah, I feel like I’m not a person who feels a ton of shame, and I feel just rivers of shame right now. New York City is demographically more female than male. You’re providing a good, single, straight male, which is in relatively high demand.Is it better to choose a big site like or a niche site like Gluten Free (which is real)? Wouldn’t it be nice if Paul Oyer could not only answer these questions but answer them for a real person wanting to improve his actual online dating situation… And I say I’m a public radio producer, which means I edit and report stories (brag) and drink too much caffeine (mild self-deprecating joke). Coffee, whiskey, running shoes, paperbacks, torrents and my geriatric Vespa. VOGT: Oh, torrents are, they’re ways that people download media illegally online usually. Now the other thing to keep in mind here is time is very much on your side.So an overweight person who is otherwise medium attractive will do almost as well as a medium attractive person who is not overweight. And what about men’s preferences versus women’s preferences?OYER: Men, on the other hand, care a lot less about income.Transcript: Alli REED: I had been personally on OKCupid on and off for a few years… REED: I actually, believe it or not, did not want to meet any of these men in real life. Alli Reed wrote a fake OKCupid profile for a really good-looking 25-year-old woman who also happened to be a racist, gold-digging, fake-pregnant-getting nightmare – and she got almost 1,000 replies. OYER: Just to give you one statistic that comes from the OKCupid blog, and I’m quoting here, “A hot woman receives roughly four times the messages an average-looking woman gets and 25 times as many as an ugly one.” And then there’s this interesting superstar effect where the very hottest 5 percent of men get twice as many emails as men who are just below that, who are more like the 10th percentile, amount the 10th percentile most attractive, but not among the very top 5 percent. I had the profile up for two or three weeks, and she got close to 1000 men message her.
Like if I were shopping for a TV it would fun if everyone were clambering for my dollar, but like…Oh that sounds terrible applied to dating. it is hard for me to say, but I would think if I were a woman and any guy who talked about….like, if he is listing his teeth as an attribute. And B) If that’s what you are listing as an attribute I’m afraid the list isn’t going to be very long…But I’m just saying as an aside…you do have good… VOGT: Yeah, it would be like an apartment being like, we have a sink, we have a working sink. DUBNER: Justin Wolfers is an economist at the University of Michigan. All my Jewish friends talk about being under pressure from mum to meet a good Jewish boy or girl, but they don’t happen to be everywhere, but they’re all over J-Date.The Freakonomics: What You Don’t Know About Online Dating episode is, for the most part, an economist’s guide to dating online. ) You’ll hear tips on building the perfect dating profile, and choosing the right site (a “thick market,” like Match.com, or “thin,” like Glutenfree Singles.com? You’ll learn what you should lie about, and what you shouldn’t. REED: No, but I figured the woman I was trying to create probably constitutes Aaron Carter’s basic fan base. REED: Well, Aaron Carter is the younger brother of a Backstreet Boy who had a brief and ill-advised rap career. And keeping America American, to me, is sort of code for I don’t like people who don’t look like me. She got probably 10 times the number of messages that my real profile got. REED: Well, Aaron Carter Fan’s one redeeming quality is that she is very good looking.Also, you’ll learn just how awful a person can be and, if you’re attractive enough, still reel in the dates. [MUSIC: The Mackrosoft, “The Game In F# Minor” (from Antonio’s Giraffe)] DUBNER: So you set up a profile, and your name is what? [AARON CARTER MUSIC] REED: And there is just no substance there in his music at all. [MUSIC: Seks Bomba, “It Takes Two to Tango” (from Somewhere In This Town)] DUBNER: So you created a profile for a girl named Aaron Carter’s Fan who likes to party and knock over homeless people, or at least their cups, and she’s a racist, gold digging, fake pregnant-getting, 25 year old girl, white girl. I asked my friend Rae Johnston, who is an Australian-based model and actress, if I could raid her Facebook photos and she very kindly said yes.So you should be picky, you should be looking for a really good match. OYER: It’s a slow, steady…Your patience level should slowly and steadily erode. One thing he’s got going for him is that he’s using a big dating website, Ok Cupid, in a big city, New York.And the reason for that is suppose you do find just the right person, and get married and live happily ever after, well you’re in no rush to do that because you have, let’s just say 50 more years in which to enjoy the relationship you find if it’s a successful one. OYER: I don’t want to advertise for any given website, but especially in your demographic, kind of a younger demographic, Ok Cupid is what we call a thick market.