I don't necessarily regret dating these men; however, I definitely made mistakes in both relationships and feel convicted about not making those same mistakes again.
I recently finished Candice Watters' book , which was a definite eye opener and showed me some areas in my life in which I want to prayerfully improve and grow.
To cite just a few: Our bodies belong to God (1 Corinthians -20); we are called to live for Him (Colossians -18) and to practice the "one another" verses in the support, care and presence of other believers (Romans 15:5, 1 Corinthians , Galatians , 6:2); it is His will that we remain sexually moral (1 Thessalonians 4:3-6); and believers must marry other believers (2 Corinthians ).
You're right to suspect that the older you get, the harder it is to find Christian men who are interested in a parent-directed courtship model and the more likely it is that you live too far away from them to effectively carry it out.
And by this we know that we have come to know him, if we keep his commandments. He said, "If you love me, you will keep my commandments" (John ). To love God with heart, mind, soul and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves (Matthew -40). How can we in our fallen state walk in holiness, especially when it comes to matters of romantic love and sexual desire? etc.) We can ask questions it may be hard for a single woman to ask and create opportunities for revealing conversations.
Whoever says 'I know him' but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him, but whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love of God is perfected. He spells out that love of neighbor in Matthew 5 where He shows how He is the fulfillment of the law, and in Him, we are called to live out a righteousness that "exceed[s] that of the scribes and the Pharisees" (v. Second Peter 2:9 says, "…the Lord knows how to rescue the godly from temptation." One of the primary ways He does that is through fellow believers. We can also absorb some of the awkwardness so the two getting to know each other can relax and enjoy the process.
That's the sort of about-face Christ died to make possible.
But before you can know if courtship is the solution, you need to rightly understand the problem.It is God's great mercy that these things bother you.Conviction is a sign of His kindness leading you to repentance (Romans 2:4); it is evidence of the Holy Spirit's work in your life (John 16:5-11). Where Satan would have you feel guilty and wallow in regret, God would have you repent, turn away from your sin, and be restored to Him.Psalm 19:7-14 shows us the breadth of Scripture, how it is sufficient for all of life, including dating.As you seek God's will in His Word, my prayer for you is 2 Peter 1:2-4.