Landwirth had been single for two years after breaking up with his college girlfriend, a woman whom he loved but knew, deep down, that he couldn’t spend the rest of his life with.
“My biggest fear was that I was going to get married, have a family, have kids, and have this huge secret that would blow up and either end up destroying my entire family or destroying me,” he said.
Landwirth had known he was gay for a while; he’d felt himself eyeing guys when he’d go out to bars in college. When he was finally ready to start meeting men, though, Landwirth had no idea where to start.
“I was way too scared to talk to anybody — I didn’t know who was gay or not gay, or what to say to them,” he says.
Everyone got a quick glance, and my only criteria was whom I felt attracted to. Do enough swiping, and sooner or later you start to develop a sense of what you like.Landwirth and Vidal matched on the same day Vidal downloaded the app.After three and a half years together, the couple got engaged this past April.But when I downloaded Tinder, I, too, was finally able to relax and flirt.Unlike the other dating apps I’d tried years earlier, like Match or Ok Cupid, I didn’t have to scroll through paragraphs-long, superfluous autobiographies.