I like to go to the gay clubs in KL, like Blue Boy in Bukit Bintang (that’s a really old, run-down place, but it has survived the best and worst of times, unlike many other flash-in-the-pan gay clubs in KL).
I bring my boyfriend to Blue Boy sometimes, and he enjoys it because he is still new to the gay world and likes to see what it’s like.
Islam is not known for its tolerance of the LGBT community and its lifestyle, even though in many Muslim countries sex between men is not uncommon due to the prohibitions of interaction between the sexes. I reached out to some friends, and in turn a couple of brave Malays stepped forward to be interviewed. Members of the Malay ethnic group basically have no choice in their religion. Relatives are usually the most persistent ones who never fail to ask: “So when is your time? (Eid), weddings, and other communal Malay gatherings.
They are raised Muslim and are expected to follow its principles. Do you feel that you are able to be “out” in your daily life, or are you only able to be open with close friends? At the office, being gay is an accepted norm as I am in the creative/media line.
It is still a very conservative community, despite of what people say.
So to be gay and Muslim and a Malay requires a lot of tact. For me in my life, I am open to friends and colleagues, but I keep up appearances when I meet other people, as interviewing people is part of my job scope.
So keeping up appearances is still a big deal in Malaysia I would think, that is if you want to thrive in some sort of way. But the advent of social media and smartphone apps like Grindr, Wechat, and others enables gay men to socialise in a more efficient but still private manner.
In the late 90s to mid-2000s, Malaysian netizens loved using online chat software like MIRC or the relay chat things.
A deputy minister had also last year condoned a parents conference that, among other things, included a discussion on how to identify youths with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT) tendencies.
Sodomy is still against the law in Malaysia, so that is quite clear cut.
But the religious state laws, which apply only to Muslims, varies from state to state and usually concern dressing up like a member of the opposite sex, or holding events that have “immoral” things such as drag-like performances.
I used to chat on this and exchange photos and phone numbers to get dates.
I lost my virginity to a guy I met on one of these online dating sites, which had a high gay following in Malaysia..