In other words, one week he might tell you he sees a future with you and even take steps toward demonstrating that sort of commitment (like introducing you to his family) but the next week you notice a definite shift in is energy – he pulls away or goes AWOL.
Rebound relationships might have all the comforts of being a sense of depth and outlook toward the future in a rebound relationship, it is often short-lived.
But It’s never cool to make your date feel like they should be charging you for a therapy session.
Often we don’t know what we’re ready for anyway until we try going out with someone new.
He’s going through a lot of emotional and legal stuff. (This is assuming that the guy is conscious and forthright about just wanting to date for fun right now) But if you want a long-term relationship with someone who is you that he doesn’t know what he wants (sometimes this happens; sometimes guys realize “wait, I don’t know what I want right now” or, even better and more clear: “this isn’t what I want right now”) – this is actually to your because then there’s no guessing game at that point, there’s little or no ambiguity (unless he’s giving you mixed messages, which often happens).
This is a big red flag that shows that he’s unsure of what he wants right now and is kind of just doing what looking for long-term love right now and just want to date for fun…dating a guy on the rebound might be your opportunity!
Every relationship comes with musical accompaniment! Hearing the songs post break-up can induce crying, the urge to text and say “how are you” or in more extreme cases throw your i Pad out the window.
That strange, occasionally awkward and sometimes delicate balance after a breakup where we have to stop and ask ourselves, “Am I ready to be dating someone again or is this person part of a phase I’m going through while residual emotions from my last relationship are still being sorted out?
” It’s a tricky thing, because there will always be elements of your old relationship stirred up a little by a new one.
There’s no easy solution to navigating through the murkiness of when we are each individually ready to embark on a new romantic adventure, but it is ok to admit to ourselves when we are, just as equally as it is ok to admit when we are not.
But if he says he doesn’t know what he wants or he says that this isn’t what he wants, this gives you 1) a clear awareness of sense of readiness and where he’s at, and 2) a clear opportunity to choose whether or not you want to continue in the relationship given where he is at.