In some ways dating is still archaic and steeped in the tradition of wooing the other person, leaving some women still believing the man should always shell out for the bill on at least the first date.However, before you give up dating in favor of your budget, read on for what real women think about going Dutch and paying their own way.“If the woman wants to pitch in she should do so, but personally I want to know that my date is willing to spend money on our relationship and me.” If you’re a man who prefers going Dutch, opt for a more casual first date or even a no-cost date, which won’t leave you both feeling awkward when the check arrives.
From fietsen and Koninginnedag to schaatsen and de Gentse Feesten. I was curious what the most common dating ettiquette is in Holland... I looked up "Dutch dating etiquette" on Google and I only found websites explaining what 'going Dutch' on a date is.
Here, you can ask questions about anything related to the Dutch or Flemish culture or share your experience with others. To what extent Dutch dating is different from what you are used to, depends on where you are from. With the emancipation of women, I think much of the etiquette has changed (or causes confusion ).
i want to know if things are different or if I've made a less than stellar match and therefore I should be worried?
“If you’re grabbing a quick bite for lunch, pick up your own check. If it’s dinner at a local neighborhood cheap spot, the date is probably more of a getting to know the person meeting and the couple should go Dutch.” However, if it’s a big night out like late night drinks and a romantic dinner, offer to pay and really mean it, but if the man insists on paying don’t turn it down and pick up the check next time.
It’s not worth it to make an awkward situation out of who’s paying, she says. No matter what your feelings are on going Dutch, by the end of a first date you should know if you want to go out on a second one, which might make all the difference in who should pay.