A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?Pick something specific she wrote about herself, and ask her a follow-up about it.If nothing else, she’ll admire the fact that you took the time to “get to know” her.” and “You’re gorgeous, I’d love to chat.” If you want to get her attention, try doing something a bit more personal.One girl we spoke to told a story about a guy who sent her a hilarious quote from the movie she had mentioned in her profile.By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.
Or if you feel compelled to bring it up, say something like, “I’m not interested in meeting anyone else online. Trust us, she’s getting a boatload of uninspiring messages like “Hi, how are you?
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah.
, we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.
By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.
The scenario: “I got a message that said ‘Obviously you’re cute, but I’m just having trouble believing that this is actually you because you seem too good to be true.