“If you were catching birds would you place your bird seed in multiple places or would you have it in just one place?
Your odds of meeting someone increase when you are more visible, so take a risk and put yourself out there,” Weks advises. “Dating is expensive for both parties and men also want to make sure that the person that they like is going to stick around past the first few dates,” Safran says.
If all checks out, be sure to keep your first few dates in public and bring your own mode of transportation to maximize your safety.” “I know that a man who is 55 or older might seem like your father, but he is actually your contemporary now—especially in the dating world,” Daniels says.
“Age is just a number, so give him a chance.” “Choosing another potential mate can be an extremely difficult process.
“Women over 40 sometimes convince themselves that there are not many good opportunities for a future mate on the dating scene after 40, and therefore settle for the first good candidate who comes along,” Drenner says.
“Too often, they make the ‘smart choice,’ meaning a good potential partner that cares for them, rather than the ‘heart choice,’ who is someone they love.” So go ahead and hold out for someone who you really, truly love.
That said, if you’re recently single for the first time in a long time, you may not know where to begin.
If you want to date married, at least be honest with yourself and those you’re dating.
But best of all, if you want to be single, make sure you are—legally.” “If you think that love should ‘just happen’ or it’s not meant to be, it’s time to rethink your dating plan,” Suzanne says.
“Frequently when dating past 40, different scenarios come into play such as co-parenting and step-parenting relationships,” Honaman points out.
“This may require flexibility as you work around ‘I have the kids this weekend’ or go on ‘dates’ with children involved.