If we graduated without a future husband in tow, the men in our class would forgo us for younger, dumber women.
She advised we start the search as early into college as possible. If he was sour over being stuck with a crusty upperclassman like me, he didn’t show it.
I almost forgot about the Princeton Mom until last month, when international headlines went nuts over the new French president elect and his wife.
Brigitte Trogneux met Emmanuel Macron when he was 15 and she was his 39-year-old drama teacher, already married with three kids.
I asked my friend Trevor, a 28-year-old mathematician, what he made of it.
“Well to be honest,” said Trevor, “I usually go for older women.
It appears this age gap is largely driven by dudes.
Men start 80% of conversations on Ok Cupid, and they tend to message younger women.
There just weren’t any of them, anywhere (or if there were, they were in hiding).
Not my ideal meet cute, but whatever — and it made me wonder: is the old norm of older man with younger woman out?
I decided to find out by pulling data on Ok Cupid messaging between straight daters from 2013 to today — so I looked at over 10 million “successful” conversations, defined as convos that included at least at four messages back and forth with contact exchange.
Could it be that the age gap exists just because it’s default behavior — a standard that persists simply due to the fact that it hasn’t been adequately challenged?
Left Chart: This shows men’s reply rate (by percentage) when women message first.