Are you saying I should ignore men’s stated preferences, Evan? 2) I only look at income if the guy is not great looking to determine whether or not how much he makes offsets his lack of looks. Now the curious thing to me is that a whole lot of not-so-good-looking men in their late 40s/50s are leaving their income unlisted, so my question is why are they leaving this important field blank?If they’re making good money, they could potentially become better looking in most women’s eyes.Hmmm…Very timely topic as I’ve recently decided to try online dating. 1) Even though my listed target ages are 38-53, men well below that target are contacting me.However, if I like a man’s picture, I respect the age preference listed in his profile, and if I see my age is outside their target, I move on. To be fair to myself though, no guy has made enough money for me to deem him good looking if my initial thought was that he wasn’t.
And while women will write 35-45, they will almost always prefer a man her age or younger.OTOH, if they have no income and aren’t good looking, then they may be doomed to perpetual disappointment in online dating, unless they’re willing to date women who are at or below their league in looks and/or older than their stated age preferences. So in additon to lying about height and probably income (if listed), they’re lying about their age, too?3) I’m actually trying to date age-appropriately, but the men who’ve shown interest to me at age 45 , look mid-50’s to mid-60’s to me. And trying to date younger and out of their league?The data shows that a man is only 22% less likely to respond to an older woman than a younger woman if she initiates contact.This is the exact same observation I make in Finding the One Online.