He will always love her and has no reason not to, including you.
His love for her won’t stop him from loving you if he’s ready, so don’t expect him to choose.
If his wife has only recently passed or if he shows signs that he is still grieving, then it’s best to step aside.
The last thing you want to be is someone’s regret and there’s a good chance you will be if he jumps into a relationship with you just to try to deal with his grief.
This will translate to all aspects of your relationship.
This wasn’t a relationship that he left by choice; she was taken from him.
Her family was also his family while they were together and the bond over losing someone they loved is a strong one.
Don’t be surprised if he is still in touch with his in-laws and don’t let it get to you.
Unless he has shown red flags indicating that he is still mourning her, then be self-assured and confident in your place in the relationship and his feelings for you.It’s important not to take it personally if he holds off on introducing you to his children or if they don’t warm up to you when you do finally meet. You also don’t want to meet them before you’re sure that what you have is real and for the long-haul since the last thing his kids need is to get close to you only to lose you too if things don’t work out.If you are committed to him and find yourself at a loss as to how to talk to him or handle issues that come up, like residual grief or his commitments to her family, then consider talking to a grief counsellor.A professional can help you to better understand the stages of grief and how to deal with dynamic that you’re not familiar or entirely comfortable with.Not pushing or trying to force things along is in your best interest.