They are the addictions that turn into lifestyles, and the moods that turn into full on ruts. Stop trying to slow down, and start turning around and identifying what you're running from.They are the things that you don't like doing and yet can't help but continue to, until you're fully spiraled into them. If you can't sit with yourself, you're going to have a really difficult life.The magical thing about the decade is that you've still got some wide-eyed wonder, while for the first time, you have the ability to do something about it. What I'm trying to say is, "enjoying your 20s" is natural for most people—it's everything else that gets in the way.It's a fawned over time in people's lives because it tends to be the most, well, magical. The things you assumed, the things you expected, the things you carried with you, the things you aren't seeing clearly yet.The frequency with which you hold yourself to superhuman standards is not in proportion to how often you will achieve them.It only creates a dichotomy against which you will always feel inferior.Because that's all it is: a deflection, or a call, to create something that means something to you.(Don't waste your 20s staring at other people's filtered faces.)So many of the things we mourn not having aren't even things we want, which is something we only tend to realize long after the fact.
The most beneficial thing you can do for your life is remind yourself every single day that you will die.
We get ourselves stuck on wanting certain things even after we've outgrown wanting them.
We're more attached to the attainment of the thing than the actual having of it. There will be things you feel and do and choose and run from that make no sense to you at all, and as much as you should strive for self-awareness, you should spend as little time as possible agonizing over the "why" of your instincts.
Doing so will show you that you are more than your beliefs, and that there is something out there more important than the things you disagree on and that is love, and love for people even when you think they're completely wrong. If you spend the rest of your life seeking validation — in appearances, in clothes, in sex, in dating, in social media likes — you will never find it, and ironically, almost foster the exact opposite.
People can sense when that's what you desire, and they tend to promptly reject it as well.