I always seem to date guys between 10 to 20 years older than me, and from my relationships comes some of the best memories and experiences.
I still get the common response from my friends: “He’s too old for you! ” I’ve also had a few people in my life suggest that I do it because I am a "gold digger."So, the broad answer is this: To clarify, I’m not dating older men because I am a “gold digger.” It’s more important for me to pull my own weight and be financially stable.
"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.
"Choose someone who is your voltage type -- has the same level of intensity about life.
Tessina, Ph D, a licensed family therapist in practice in Long Beach, Calif., and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again, tells Web MD.
For their part, the men like the sophistication and life success of their older mates, she explains.
"What you don't want," she explains, "is one partner wanting to go out, the other stay in; one willing to talk, the other wanting space (and silence to enjoy it)." Susan Winter is co-author, with Felicia Brings, of Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance.
She has been in several relationships with men up to 20 years younger than herself.
But even though their older woman-younger man relationship may be among the world's most visible, it's not that unusual anymore.
An older date may have interesting stories to tell about his life, and he can expose you to a new world with exciting adventures.
Older guys can also seem more stable, and many older men are looking to marry.
In fact, a Boston Globe report went a step further to chart Clooney’s age difference history with previous girlfriends, the average being 9.73 years.
What about Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, who were 16 years apart when they were married?