I also think, however, that the black community RELIES on black women.And there's a perception that there will be real problems if too many black women date or marry outside of it.) - but I wonder if those relationships - on the meta-level - do not perpetuate some of the racialized myths your book seems to discredit. The white wife as the ultimate marker of achieving success?With black educated women outpacing black men 3 to 1, what leads black men to choose a white woman over a black woman? I often struggle to articulate this critique, when I think on a micro-level it is hard to criticize anyone's relationship - just as those who stand jeering on the sidelines of interracial relationships miss what is special there.
Not to sound too "granola" here but the work is always within.particularly in restaurants, in Ohio, we’d often get stares and sometimes comments from entire tables but here no one seemed to give a crap. a couple of years ago I was at a restaurant in NJ where my girl friend and I actually had trouble getting a table – they actually tried to refuse us.Both of us being stubborn we stayed and they eventually served us.Race does complicate things for some young people, but I think it's getting better.I also think it's helpful to live in a diverse area like Washington, DC where there are so many different kinds of people.