If she feels you are totally into learning about her that is a real turn on, especially if you have a sense of humor. Just like you don’t want someone to misrepresent themselves to you, don’t misrepresent to them. She will want to meet you in a public place and allow her to make arrangements to meet, mainly in her hood. If you can’t then text her and make a plan for another time. We know at this stage about not changing the other person but accepting them the way they are. If you have children, don’t be afraid of introducing her to them.
It’s uncomfortable for both, and there’s no way of having any kind of fun or spontaneous conversation. If the picture you have online is what she will see in person, don’t come walking in looking nothing like your photo, either being fifty pounds heavier, the photo was taken when you were twenty years younger.
If in any way you meet and you see that she’s got the plastic surgery going on, has lied about her age, then you know where you are at with her.
They have nothing to lose by being and showing who they genuinely are. If you cannot say it in person then send a short email. We’ve had plenty experience of raising children, we don’t need to be a mommy to you. Know that many of us are quite experienced in relationships and we know how to treat a good man. We are used to having lots of space in a relationship. Hey men, if you are going to see a woman in another state for the first time, make sure you know what you are doing.
Likewise, the much younger girlfriends are not all brainless wonders content with being eye candy.
On the other hand, if you’re an older man married to or wanting to date a younger woman just because she’s younger, then perhaps the stereotypes apply—in which case, you probably don’t care.
It’s also interesting how these refrains go out the window when we encounter someone who doesn’t quite see the world the same way we do. Sure, there are a number of stereotypes about older men dating younger women, but that doesn’t mean they’re true.
For example, using this equation, a 45-year-old man shouldn’t date anyone younger than 29-and-a-half; though he can round up or down at his leisure—probably down.
Sadly, everyone seems to be preoccupied with the idea of age when it comes to older men dating younger women.
A weird thing to obsess over when there are more men concerned about finding women based on their hair color, height, weight, eye color, and cup size; or being turned off because her toes are too long (or any other trivial physical trait).
The last part is especially important for older men dating younger women. Because you’re violating everyone’s concept of what an acceptable relationship is.
Connecting and having fun means succeeding where others thought you’d fail.