Even if I did want to talk about how I feel, I’m not sure I’d be able to articulate it, especially to someone with such a different frame of reference from my own.
In those moments, I’ve wished to be sitting in front of someone who could relate.
It’s not that I don’t think white people are anxious; two months into Trump’s presidency, most of the white people in my life are activated.
They’re in the streets, calling senators and congressmen, attending community board meetings, and holding sign-making parties. But while the political universes of my white friends are cracking open, I’m feeling more inclined than ever to cloister myself.
If you know a guy who stands so close to you that you can smell yesterday’s breakfast on his breath, he’s definitely a creepy guy that needs to be avoided.
He doesn’t understand social etiquette and he’s definitely getting close to you for a reason.
Better push him away before he thinks you enjoy the intermingling of both your personal spaces.
[Read: The 7 stages of love for men] #4 The dirty talking creepy guy. He boasts and brags, and think all women must strip down and bow before him and his riches. Have you ever dated a guy who seems to have a lot of crazy fetishes?
They smoked weed in their parents’ houses with abandon. If they wanted me, I thought, it was because I seemed free like them. Since college I’ve had five boyfriends, and all of them have been white. They’re no longer the object of my affection, a mirror for my self-worth, or an affirmation of my beauty. The night Trump was elected, I wrote about feeling lonely.He may assume that both of you are actually exchanging fun, sexy conversations with each other. The creepy stalker guy is the guy who thinks he’s being cool and persuasive by trailing you everywhere. They assume younger girls are easier to get, because they can’t ever get a date with women their own age. He’s the guy who drops everything else and stares at you with a vengeance. He’s obsessed with you, and no matter what you say, he just thinks you’re playing hard to get.Avoid him, don’t give him any attention and try to give him the slip. If you have an older friend who tries to behave like a touchy feely creepy guy, he’s surely an older creepy guy you need to get away from. Do you exchange glances with interesting guys at a coffee shop? He stares hard, with an eye watering lingering gaze that stretches into an eerie smile each time you look at him. This is romantic nightmare, and he’d do anything to try and win your attention and your love.It’s an odd thing to then go back to my date and continue the performance of “getting to know you.” I fantasize about walking up to him and saying, “Gotta go!” before heading for the door, but instead, I sit down, and continue talking about which dystopian novel best describes our current predicament, or whatever.