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Sharing interests and developing new ones is a good way to form bonds, and will be the basis of your developing relationship.Whether you’ve been widowed for three months or three years, try and imagine you’re about to go on a first date.Dating another widow or widower can be reassuring, as someone who has also experienced losing a partner will have a better idea of how you’re feeling right now.(Some higher-end department stores offer this service free of charge.) Or ask a close friend to be brutally honest about what your ideal makeover would include. Countless widows and widowers have met men and women of quality and intelligence online.And whatever exercise you once enjoyed, try to make it part of your daily routine. You’ll have to practice standard “Internet safety” — due diligence, public first meeting and so on — but there’s no reason you can’t use this tool as successfully as romantics much younger than you.