You never know what chemistry might reveal itself if you were both more relaxed.
If you’re wondering about the chemistry you do, or rather don’t, have with a date, here are some things to remember: 1.
How do you get the balance right between not dismissing someone outright without wasting time going on lots of dates with someone with whom you have no spark? Physical chemistry is an incredibly important part of a relationship, and couples who feel this strongly have a much greater drive to work through the problems a relationship hits than those who don’t.The spark is a certain feeling of sudden heat--even alarm--that seem to start in the heart region (literally--I feel it underneath my sternum somewhere). It is not, for me, a sensation that persists for a long time; rather, it's a sudden realization: A note about #4: I am more than happy to date a person who is medicated and functional. we need to band together, sister, and spread the Ellen: yes: i like my refusals to be as firm as my gluteal muscles. But it's just too hard to try to carry someone who's in too deep. In fact, I even spent a few months at different stretches exclusively dating a few guys who didn't light my fire because I thought, "Maybe I'm just being difficult!Maybe I should be more willing to give people who like me a lot a go! And so trial and error has taught me that pushing myself when I didn't feel the spark was pretty much a waste of time.# # #Some of you have also asked what the spark feels like, for me. Regarding the spark: There's a reason that thing got its name. It's a bit like the reaction I have if somebody comes up behind me and startles me, only a bit subtler and more pleasant; somewhat like the feeling after having a shot of espresso, only more flickering, with a kind of inner-stomach-tremble-thing going on. Do you forgive me and understand where I'm coming from on the topic of second dates? xxx------------------------------------dear Chessenia: i'm glad you are with me on this!