Also, it conveys that she doesn’t have friends, doesn’t do anything, and isn’t active.It doesn’t necessarily mean any of these things, but that’s the perception it can give.When you’re smitten, you want to know and learn everything about your new flame, and it can come across as needy and smothering.Do what normal people do and just silently stalk them from the shadows! Nobody should be stalking anybody.) As with just about everything else, there’s a right way to message people through email and texting.I’m not talking about anonymous trolls — I’m talking about how you represent yourself.Listen, I have no problem if you want to add 1 inch or subtract five pounds. But, if the profiles I read are any indication, EVERYONE seems to be “a world-class traveler who’s happy chilling at home on a Friday or hitting the town, loves to explore ethnic restaurants, and enjoys outside activities like hiking, kayaking, or biking.” And then when you go on a date, they’d rather Netflix and chill, or they enjoy sleeping in on a Saturday and lounging around eating pizza. It’s just that you don’t want to misrepresent yourself.This is someone you’re, well, hoping to sleep with or be in a relationship with. Re-read your messages once before you send them to make sure there are no glaring mistakes.You’re looking for a potential mate, not a pen pal.
On every topic that exists, I have some friends on one side and some on another. Be respectful, be engaging, and be excited to meet them. This doesn’t mean you now can blast invites over Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Kik, Whats App, Tumblr, Linked In, or You Tube.
I know this election, in particular, has been extremely divisive, but this is not the time to start sharing your opinions on politics or any other possibly fiery topics. We just avoid those topics because we are adults and enjoy our friendship. The woman you’re talking to is a human being, not an object. I know men tend to just say what enters their heads without passing it through a filter.
If you draw out a position that is different from yours right off the bat, you might completely discount the person. It prompts interesting discussions and opens our eyes to multiple sides of an issue, so keep your convo light and fun at the beginning. It can be understandable in person when they get their wires crossed and trip over their tongue. When I am instructing my male clients, I tell them to imagine they are talking to their sister or grandmother at first. The flirting can come later after you’ve had a few emails or calls.
), it’s so nice to be able to have a good base of etiquette and manners.
That doesn’t mean I use them all the time, but at least I know what they are.